MARRIAGE IS A B.L.A.S.T!

I have been married for 20 years this July.  The woman that I share this journey with is what makes me an extraordinary man.   She’s so selfless and wanting to serve her family its incredible.   I am trying to follow her lead and doing my best to respect her and not take her for granted.             

I made up this acronym to help me and you if your desire is for a great marriage.  

B stands for one of the best ingredients in a successful marriage …


Belief or Trust.  Do you trust your mate?  Do you both communicate that kind of language.  I regularly express these words.  ”I believe in you” or “I trust you”.  These words instill confidence that will encourage your mate to believe in themselves.

Listen-  Love the most by listening.  Actively.  More than nodding your head or an uh-huh.  The best analogy I heard is from author John Trent.  Think of a drive through window.  It involves repeating the order and sounding interested.  Fast food drive through needs to lose the headsets.  They aren’t listening very well anymore.  Too much multi-tasking. Does anybody else agree?  They never get it right!

Argue- The right way. Fight only in the nude.  You have to learn this from a pro. LOL! Kidding!  I’m serious though! Find an older couple that knows how to fight and ask to sit in.  Its fun to watch two people who trust each other with their emotions, fight.  FYI! It’s not who is right but what is right.  FIGHT FOR WHAT IS RIGHT   I used to think I had to win.  My wife and I are very competative.  She had to win also.  It only mattered who scored last with the final word, by then nobody won. Never use the D word

S-  for SATISFY  When was the last time you made it your goal to please your mate.  This little tip will put your marriage in the 20 years plus category.  I am just now learning this little secret.  Remember you reap what you sow.  So what’s your pleasure!

T-   Be Thankful. I am a biggie on this one.  This use to cause me much anger early in my marriage because I felt under appreciated.  I believe we should thank our spouse for everything they do for us.  Try it!  Notice all the things your spouse does everyday.  Just by being thankful, you’ll have a BLAST  and your marriage will last!